Once in a while I'll notice something strange in my behavior that I know I need to fix immediately. Today I noticed that I'd stopped looking people in the eyes.
It seems like such a simple thing. But I think between getting to know a lot of new people in the past year (being an introvert, that can be overwhelming), and just a low-level depression (feeling less than other people), I'd stopped. I'm not sure where I was looking ... maybe just past them. Or I'd glance at their eyes and then look down, in a thoughtful pose.
The problem with this is that it sends a message. On my end, I'm feeling like I'm not worthwhile, so I avert my eyes. But people on the other side of that can misinterpret that and feel like I don't think they're worth my time.
And it really is nice looking into people's eyes. They're so expressive. And there's a much greater sense of actually connecting with the other person.
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